Complaints

Everyone has their fair share of things to complain about. And you know what, it is perfectly HEALTHY and even what I would define as GOOD FOR YOU to complain. But there's this catch about complaining:

As much as you need to do it, you have to do something ELSE as well, you need to work on it. If all you do is complain again and again, not only will people get tired of listening, but all you're doing is digging yourself a whole to fall in. The more you complain, the more excuses you give yourself, the worse listener you become, and the more depressed you become.

I mean, don't get me wrong, it is good to complain. It is NECESSARY. But the catch is that you need to DO something with your complaints- if you're upset that you said something mean to a friend, then go say SORRY to that friend. If you're complaining that your back hurts (ahem ahem) go tell your parents to (excuse the profanity) fucking shut up and take you to a doctor (even though I know you have tried, my friend). If you don't DO anything, then you're useless. If all you can do is complain, then you have failed yourself. That is the truth.

And as for complaining about things that you can't control, well, that's just ridiculous. That is plain dumb. That is not only inappropriate but detremental, because it is a worry/complaint that you can't fix, and therefore shouldn't worry about.

And I am not saying don't CARE. But there is a diffence between CARING and complaining/worrying.

So remember that.

If you want to complain, you have to be willing to take action to right the problem.
Otherwise, what is the use in complaining at all??

A little bitter, but true.

Stay Rad,
Riley

Goodmorning Sunshine

It's a pleasure to feel you today.
So I know I haven't posted anything on this blog for almost two months, but I mean, for a while of it I was in the hospital, and after getting OUT of the hospital I had some crazy make up work to do.
And I made mistakes and I hurt friends and I made things right and I helped friends, but most importantly I decided to go on retreat this past weekend.
And let me tell you.
I don't know if you've ever been on a retreat, I don't care if you're Christian or not. Retreat is something you can't miss. A retreat is like literally getting away from all of the LIFE you're dealing with and finally living. You get to hit the reset button.
And so I know that I'm pretty sure none of you who follow me are Catholic (besides Dev Dev), so I don't expect you to get this. But there's this thing we crazy Catholic's do called adoration. And do cut out all the complicated theology and explanations of transubstantiation that can take hours, I'm going to get down right to the root of it. We believe that we are literally siting in the presence of God and it is NOTHING but awe inspiring. And that's where my reset began. That's where I could finally say, alright God, I'm not living this the way I need to be. I'm not acting the way I should. What do you want me to do? And you know what? God told me a whole lot. But one thing that is an undeniable truth that can go for any religion or lack there of is something that I was graced with learning: Are you sure you're actually living?
Because I realized I wasn't. So I wanted to take this chance to challenge you all. Look at your life.

Are you sure you're actually living?